Trust.

If you believe in something as much as you believe that bad things will always happen, you'll find it.

Happiness.

-Ghost Whisperer

Heard this on ghost whisperer yesterday. Bout how this lady eventually screwed her marriage up cause of her..unnecessary suspicions.

"I always knew where he was when i called, i knew it with all my heart but i just refused to believe."

"You know the irony? I never trusted my husband, never. Even i knew he stayed faithful all these while."

Sad, right? It's so easier to trust your friends, cause maybe sub-consciously, you know that if things doesn't work out, you can always find new ones. Of course, given the fact that friends can be made aplenty anywhere else. And when it comes to true friends, it's also easier to trust them with your life, simply because you've been through thick and thin with them since puberty, and they know you inside out. You know that they will be there for you, no mater what.

But when it comes to trusting someone whom you'll be giving your heart up for safe-keep, it's scary, isn't it? The fear of having your heart ripped apart when the day comes when you realise the person doesn't feel the same way as he did for you before. That's one less deciding factor in friendship i guess, cause friends don't really change the way they feel for friends...do they?

Maybe because the kind of love given is different in a friendship, thats why so much of it can be devoted and given, without fearing if anything fails along the way. Cause the love required and accepted, is different. Hmmm, quite a tough concept to wrap your head around it huh. Ya, but loving someone wholeheartedly, it takes a hell lot of courage. No wonder they say, it's always easier if your partner loves you more than you do. So at the very least, when everything is burnt to ashes, you wouldn't be hurt as bad. Yeah?

Trust can be so easy between friends, but so difficult when it comes to someone you're gonna spend your whole life with. How many couples out there can actually swear by their hearts that they trust their spouses entirely? That they've never doubted them committing infidelity throughout their years spent together? If there was really a whole hearted trust present, gone would be the insecurities and doubts, the tears and the fears altogether.

So when it really boils down to trusting someone wholeheartedly, there really isn't no one else except for your family huh? But then again, there are always exceptions, given the amount of domestic violence and what not. If there isn't full trust in something as pristine and esteemed, is there even the possibility of devoting one's full trust elsewhere?

What a cynical post, mocking the very essence of mankind. To trust, or not to trust? If trust, to what extent? If not, what's the point in building relationships anyway?

Looks like I've contradicted the main reason of this post. Digression, tsk.

Maybe if i believe that good things will happen in real life as much as in the lifeless TV screen, they will actually start to happen. Maybe if i stopped doubting the possibility of idealistic stories of fairy tales and Korean dramas happening in real life, dispelling thoughts that they are just the thoughts of a very altruistic person who decides to fill this void called "happiness" in people's lives (ah, there i go again, digressing).

Perhaps ghost whisperer says it best somehow, "If you believe in something as much as you believe that bad things will always happen, you'll find it. Happiness."