This is the calming before the storm,
this absolution is always incomplete,
its always bittersweet.
Was up till 3am in the morning today, talking to G online. Sought advice pertaining to a certain ongoing issue which bothers me to no end (srsly I wna pull all my hair out and shoot myself) and I realise that I really, really suck at sugarcoating my words when it comes to confrontational situations.
My logic is that since you have to throw away all ego and fear and break all boundaries and comfort zones to confront something and be aggressive....might as well just don't mince words and say it as it is? Rather than you attempt to make candied fragments of your opinions and then it doesn't get across clearly.
Just a recalled version of an extract of our conversation which I thought was amusing.
G: But stuff like "I can change..blah blah" will definitely come out la. Don't say I didn't warn you. It's just normal relationship stuff.
Me: Then I'll reply "Pls don't. Don't have to change. Anyway it's already like this. Honestly, changing wouldn't make much of a difference leh."
G: Pls don't??? That is so bad
G: Like she want to change but you don't let her
Me: That was my attempt at softening my words!! I used please!
Hahaha. But all is well cause I saved up useful, tactful and kind phrases that might come in handy. Courtesy of G. I told him that it'll be the benchmark for the right.."soft" tone I'm suppose to adopt in tricky situations like this. I'll just compare whatever I want to say to his phrases, and then edit accordingly.
But right now...lets hope that I won't have to use them. *fingers crossed*
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